8 Reasons Why I Hate the Newborn Phase!
I recently wrote an honest post about the newborn stage of parenthood, and specifically, the reasons to LOVE it and embrace it. Well today I’m turning that on it’s head and telling you why I also flippin’ HATE it too! It’s tough having a little person enter your life all of a sudden. It’s a huge shock to the system. Thankfully second time around the adjustment has been a bit easier. If you’re currently in the thick of it, don’t worry, it does start to get easier. For more birth and newborn posts, check out my c-section story here, my experience of having my baby in Bristol here, and my newborn truths here.
Anyways, here are all the reasons why I really don’t like the newborn phase. Do you agree?
You just grew a person and gave birth. You need time to recover, heal and rest. But you can’t. You have this teeny, tiny baby to take care of. All day, all night. I had a c-section and recovery was harder second time round. I needed my husband to do all the running around and heavy lifting for a good few weeks.
Second to recovery was my body confidence. It was completely shot. My skin felt saggy, loose, stretched and raw. I’ve been using the Essentiel Vie skincare range to keep it feeling fresh. I’ve been using the Essentiel Vie Anti Stretch Mark Oil for a few months now and my skin is so smooth and soft. It feels luxurious on my skin, soft, gentle and doesn’t really have any scent. It’s great if you’re a mum-to-be or new mum, looking to give their skin a welcome treat!
Shock to the System
Having a baby is a massive shock to the system. Especially so if it is your first baby. With B, it took me a long time to adjust to motherhood and all that comes with it. It took me a while to get over the fact that I’d never have time just for me ever again. I’m responsible for this amazing, incredible, little baby, who needs me. Today, tomorrow and forever more. I felt it was very daunting, scary, worrying. Could I do it?
Everyone tells you that you won’t sleep but nothing can prepare you for how awful lack of sleep makes you feel. A few days are manageable but after a few weeks, the tiredness really starts to take it’s toll. With both babies, we were up every 2-3 hours for a good few months. I’d say Lewis has been slightly better and settled into a routine at night quicker than B. At ten weeks he started going down for 7pm and waking anywhere between 2am and 7am.
With Lewis, I really struggled with no routine for the first few weeks. The days and nights merged into one. Trying to keep B in any routine was tough going too. I felt thankful for the school routine actually. It gave me a reason to get up in the morning and get my shit together!
We loved having visitors. But sometimes it can feel never ending. And it isn’t just family and friends. You’ll also see the midwife and healthy visitor at home a few times too. I always felt like I had to tidy and sort the lounge out before they came over!
Urgh, newborn babies are really windy. And wind can be troublesome to bring up sometimes. With B we tried so many different things – Colief, gripe water, Infacol, winding this way and winding that way. With Lew, yes, he had wind and gas. Have I stressed about it so much this time? No. As with B, after three months or so, he is a lot LESS gassy. It just takes time.
It can be stressful trying to figure out why they’re so noisy at night. And it stressed me when he’d bring a feed back up. Should I now give him more? Is he crying because he is hungry, uncomfy, has more wind?! It’s never ending.
Newborns are tiny. Delicate. Fragile. I like it once they get to three months or so and are a bit more sturdier. I worried about him in the car seat, the pram, out and about. Is he too hot, too cold, is his neck squished? Can he still breath? Is he breathing at night? Cot death, meningitis. The list of things to worry about is endless. And it doesn’t stop!
Do you love or loathe the newborn baby phase? I guess it is easier than when they hit the terrible twos and fuck-you threes! Each phase definitely has it’s pros and cons. Be sure to pin for later, and join us over on social for more parenting lark:
Disclaimer: This is a collaborative post.