Hey and welcome. Today on the blog I share a serious one. Well not too serious! I share the reasons why I wanted to go back to work after maternity leave and why I love being a working mum!
I believe it is a really personal choice and one only you and your family can make. You shouldn’t be made to feel guilty for returning to work, and the same if you choose to stay at home. Deciding to work or stay home is a personal decision and not one that we should judge others on. In my opinion anyway. I had my reasons for wanting to return to work and today I’m going to share them with you.
I like working
It sounds ridiculous but for the most part I like going to work. I like the routine and I like the sense of self-worth it gives me. It’s good to know I can provide for myself, independent of my husband. I like knowing that I don’t need to rely on anyone else, that I contribute to the “family-tree”. Stickman is big in our house at the mo!
I like learning and I like keeping my brain busy. For the sake of good mental health, I need to keep my mind busy!
I get to be me
What I mean by this is I get to be working Emma, not mummy Emma. I like talking to work colleagues and discussing marketing strategy. Basically I enjoy adult conversation! I missed this a lot while on maternity leave and I spent a lot of time feeling lonely and out of my depth.
I get bored easily
In all honesty I actually found the majority of maternity leave completely tedious. And I felt guilty for finding it tedious. Im not a cuppa and cake fan and I spent most of the nine months feeling out of my depth and a bit “lost”.
After a few months, I settled in to it and started to go to some baby groups. By the time I actually felt like I was enjoying it, it was time to go back to work anyway!
I didn’t want to be a “stay at home” mum
Now I have nothing against parents who want to stay at home, but I just knew this wasn’t for me. I love my son dearly but I know I’d be rubbish at keeping him completely stimulated day in day out until he started school. Nursery keeps him busy and he socialises with his friends. We are fortunate that he loves nursery!
I like earning money
Money isn’t everything but it certainly helps and I like knowing I earn it myself. It’s great knowing I’m earning my own wage and that I can provide for my son.
I wanted to keep a working mindset
I didn’t want to take too long off as I feared I’d lose my confidence about returning to work. The thought of having years off work is lovely if you’re travelling the world! In reality I was sat at home, going to baby groups and binge watching Pointless. I didn’t want my brain to turn to mush and I wanted to get back to it after a year. You can read some of my tips for getting back into the swing of things after maternity here.
In reality, as the nine months loomed closer, I wasn’t eager to rush back to my desk. Far from it. My boy wasn’t even walking and he still needed help feeding himself. How would he cope at nursery?!
I wanted B to go to nursery
Nursery is a fantastic environment for stimulating and keeping the little man entertained. An environment that I just couldn’t mimic at home, full time. He socialises with other children, he learns to share, to take turns and he genuinely enjoys himself. You can read more about our nursery journey here.
I’ve shared some of my reasons for going back to work after maternity leave. Are you a working parent or did it make sense to stay at home? Share your experiences and thoughts with me in the comments 🙂