When I had little b, I knew I wanted to go back to work after maternity leave. At first I wasn’t sure how long I wanted to take off. Did you know instantly you wanted a full year?
Before b was born, I had it set in my mind that I’d want to go back to work after 6 months. The reality was very different. I can hear you chuckling! I did want to return to work. There was no way I could be a stay at home parent. I just don’t have the patience or stamina.
Before I had little b, I was really anxious that becoming a mum would mean I ultimately would lose part of my identity. The bit that makes me “me”.
How do we define ourselves?
Daughter, sister, wife, friend, colleague, mother. I just didn’t want to be this “mum” stereotype that I had in my head. And in all honesty, now that I am three years in, I am MUM. Whatever that means. And I love being mum.
I also like being marketer, creator, writer and anything else I set my mind to.
It was certainly tough going back to work after having nearly a year off. Once I’d gotten into the swing of things and found a routine that worked, I started to enjoy it again.
Here are some of the things that helped me make the transition from maternity to work as painless as possible:
Using my Keep in Touch (KIT) days. I used one every month after the first three months. This helped me keep up-to-date with what was going on at work. It also gave me this feeling of being more than mummy while I was on maternity.
Going back part time. I say part time but I still work four days out of five and I work most evenings. I have Friday with my little dude and we call these mummy and b days.
Getting stuck in as soon as I got back to work. I didn’t really want to faff about with settling myself back in. I just wanted to crack on as if I had never been away. I planned a trip out to the States and I tried to get involved with as much as possible.
Making the most of the time I have with b. I only have Friday off with b so I always try to plan something to do. I’d also make an effort to plan our weekends to the nth degree. I’ve stopped doing this so much now and try to just go with the flow a bit more!
Finding a good routine. At first, Mr d would leave the house just after 7 and I’d get up, get myself dressed then sort out b. As b got older (and more trying!), my quick morning routine soon became a bit of a faff. Mr d typically gets b ready now while I get ready and then I sort out b with his breakfast and drop him at nursery. This routine is fine but I miss picking out b’s clothes most days! I used to set them out the night before but Mr d would often miss them anyway. B always ends up in mismatched colours and whatnot. Neither b or d care though so maybe I shouldn’t!
Did you take maternity or paternity leave? Did you find it tough getting back into a routine once back at work? Or did you decide not to go back? Feel free to share your own experiences with me in the comments below 🙂