What Advice Would You Give Yourself at Age 18?

What Would You Say to Yourself at 18?

So I’ve been a parent for all of 3 and a half years now. A short time really and I’m certain I have a lot to learn in the coming years. And you kind of learn as you go along I’ve found. My boy is growing up so fast and the days seem to fly by. Sometimes that’s a good thing when it’s 8am and it’s been tantrum city since 6am.

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As the time flies by, it got me thinking about b growing up and becoming a boy, a teenager, leaving home, having his own family. He told us he wants to be a daddy and then look after his daddy. Erm not sure that works but hey. What would you or did you say to your child at 18?

What advice would you give yourself if you could zip back to 18? Life is full of regrets and what-ifs and I’ve thought many times what I would and wouldn’t do differently if I had my chance to be young again. Here are a few things that I’d say to my younger self and that one day, I’ll say to my boy. Not sure he will listen though!

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Build up your skills and take every opportunity to learn. Sure I did well at school and I went to university and got a degree. But when I look back I feel I wasted a lot of time. I really wish I’d made more of an effort to learn outside of my university course. I had so much time on my hands outside of lectures – I could have gotten a job, built up work experience or done some voluntary work. But I didn’t. I feel like I wasted time when I look back.

Save, save, save. I know when you’re 18, saving money sounds boring and dull but I really wish I’d done a better job of just popping a little bit away. Even £20 a month or so once I started a weekend job.

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Read more. I read a lot but I wish I’d read more when I was younger. I spent so much time reading trashy fiction as a teenager and I wish I’d invested that time reading more non-fiction and learning about the world around me. I studied German at university and I read about German politics, history, and literature. I wish I’d broadened my horizons a bit.

Don’t stress exams. They help but they are not the be all and end all. I remember stressing so much over my SATS exams when I was 14 or so. What a waste of energy! But at that age you don’t realise that once you get older, you’ll have bigger things to worry about.

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You might never find your “niche” and that’s ok. I’m in my mid-thirties now and still wonder what I will do when I grow up. This has always been something I’ve worried about -my niche. Everyone else seemed to have this sorted – doctor, teacher, manager. I had no idea when I left university. Since having my little boy, I worry less about this. Happiness and feeling content are my main aspirations.

Believe in yourself. And this is one that still haunts me in my thirties. When I left school, we all had little notebooks which we would fill in for our friends – good luck wishes and what not. A teacher wrote “you are better than you believe you are”. I try and carry those words with me today : )

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So there you go. The things I would say to my eighteen year old self if I had the chance to go back. What would you want to say?

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What Would You Say to Yourself at 18?

 
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14 comments

  1. I love this post!!!! Please check out my post \”Dear 18-year-old me\” aladyhoodjourney.wordpress.com its not one of my recent post but I think you and you followers would enjoy!!!

  2. As soon as I saw your title, I started thinking about the answer, and lo and behold, my first two were the same as your first two! Really interesting insights, and a very thoughtful exercise too. #KCACOLS

  3. Lovely post, I totally agree with everything you said. There is a lot more I would say to my 18 year old self but you\’ve pretty much covered most of it. Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday

  4. Some great points! I think I would tell myself to try and worry less about what people thought of me. I was so self-conscious. Ahhh, hindsight is such a wonderful thing… But I guess what we did got us to the lovely families we have today so it\’s not all bad…. #KCACOLS

  5. Believe in yourself is definitely something I would say to my 18 year old self. over the years my self confidence has disappeared and I havent pursued the dreams I should have and wanted to back them. Belief makes anything possible #KCACOLS

  6. Believe in yourself is definitely something I would say to my 18 year old self. over the years my self confidence has disappeared and I havent pursued the dreams I should have and wanted to back them. Belief makes anything possible #KCACOLS

  7. Believe in yourself is definitely something I would say to my 18 year old self. over the years my self confidence has disappeared and I havent pursued the dreams I should have and wanted to back them. Belief makes anything possible #KCACOLS

  8. Wow this post got me thinking! There\’s so much I\’d tell 18 year old me but the one point I\’d stress would be to not worry over boys! I spent so much of my teenage years thinking a failed 2 week fling meant the end of my life! I bet I wouldn\’t even listened to myself though!!
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  9. Good advice! I\’m not sure what advice I would give, but it\’s an interesting thing to think about so will have to consider it! Contrary to you, perhaps I should have learnt more German culture and language! I studied history so, sadly, the only things I know about Germany are a detailed knowledge of the Nazis, and a load of Nazi slogans in their original German! Shame, as I would like to know more about Germany than just those 12 years of its history. #KCACOLS

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