4 Signs That Point to a Threenager – Toddler Tears and Tantrums!

dealing with toddler tantrums age three years terrible twos threes naughty advice tips how to cope

My toddler turned three – and then started the tantrums!

Warning – this post contains no tips or tricks for dealing with toddler tantrums. It contains nothing constructive or useful whatsoever. If you are looking for tips don’t bother reading on. Instead, feel free to cry with me because it is official, my son has changed – maybe it is the house move, maybe it’s a phase – who knows. I just need to get it off my chest!

Four sure fire signs that you have a Threenager dealing with toddler tantrums

So my son just turned three in June. It’s barely a month yet and already he walks around like he owns the world. I thought it was a bit of a myth – this whole talk of threenagers and the f*ck you threes. But after this last weekend I am slowly starting to fear that it isn’t a myth and that it’s all true and that we have another 11 months until we hit the fours!! Can you hear the panic in my words?

To be honest I guess I had it coming. The terrible twos weren’t really that terrible. Sure he had his moments but I could reason with him, bribe him or coerce him to come round to my way of thinking. This weekend has been a whole kettle of fish. Someone swapped my child.

Here are some incidents that occurred last weekend that have made me realise my boy isn’t a cutsey bubba anymore, but a little monkey!toddler tantrums how to deal with them mummy blogger parenting stress reassurance

Hygiene

In the last three days his hygiene standards have slipped. He now wipes his nose on the car door. Yep, I open up the car door to get him out and it is covered in snot. When I asked him what was all over the car door, he looked at me as if I’d gone mad and calmly said “Snot. I wiped my nose mummy”. Brilliant.

We’ve also taken a few steps back regarding potty training (massive sigh here). B is happy to poo in his pants and he proclaimed to Grandma that he needed a wee and asked her if could he do it in her plant pot.

Manners

These are non-existent at the moment. I’ve been told to go away, I’ve been hit and slapped and shouted at. He honestly just doesn’t care.

An update a year on – we stall have a few hitting issues. They usually start if we say no to something. We get the “foot stamp” too.

Compassion

Again, non existent. I stubbed my toe really badly on a bit of metal and he laughed at me. I was literally sobbing my eyes out. He gets up and returns with his play saw, telling me he’ll cut my toe off. Yeahhhhh. Thanks buddy.

Patience

To be fair this has been void for months now. B is like a little ticking time bomb – anything could set him off at any minute! This morning it was 6am and it was a nee-thread. Quick explanation, the “nee” is a blanket he has and he likes to pick out the threads, roll them up and stick them up his nose. Yes, I’m aware this isn’t a great situation. So this morning he went ballistic because he’d got a thread stuck up his nostril. A quick blow and panic over. And here is the infamous “nee” !!

toddler tantrums how to deal with them mummy blogger parenting stress reassurance

Even a quick game of football or a ride on his bike turns in to carnage at the moment. I honestly thought b and mr d had had an accident on Sunday morning when I saw Mr d carrying b across the courtyard where we live. Instead the reality was that b had a strop because daddy wouldn’t carry him on his shoulders. Cue daddy having to leave the bike in the street to carry b home.

Sigh. Mum friends tell me it is a developmental leap, that it’s a phase. I’m not so sure…! Please tell me it is just a phase haha!

dealing with toddler tantrums age three years terrible twos threes naughty advice tips how to cope

55 comments

  1. Yikes. My kid has been a terror at times and seriously he\’s only a year and a half so I\’m terrified of the terrible twos. Now I have to worry about the threenager year too. eep. #kcacols

  2. Our little one likes a good tantrum since he turned two but I was relying on the fact that these would be gone by the time he turned 3! Maybe this won\’t be the case after all!! Thanks for destroying my dreams with this post 😂😂 #fortheloveofBLOG

  3. Such true reflections, I feel for you! I have a 3.5yo and a 1.5 yo, the former went straight from the terrible twos into being a threenager…no break from the tantrums and now the younger one as started the terrible twos early!! There is moments of hope though, after screaming all morning (both of them and me) they stopped for a little kissing session. Made it all worthwhile! #fortheloveofBLOG

  4. The saw to cut your toe off is hilarious! I say that to my nephews all the time if they\’re whinging about something that can\’t hurt that much \”oh well if it\’s that bad I\’d better chop your finger/toe/arm off then\”. Does that make me mean? whoops! #twinklytuesday

  5. Could our kids be twins?! Mine \”hates everything\”, wipes her nose in her t-shirt and couldn\’t remember please or thank you (something she used to be so good at before) for love or money. Playing with other kids is a no no as she just tells them she \”hates them\” and pushes them. She\’s four soon. I\’m told that sucks more. Great. #TwinklyTuesday

  6. Mine is about to turn one and has been slapping me since he was strong enough to move his arms. It\’s a bit disheartening that it carries on past three! I hope it is just a little phase and you start seeing eye to eye soon! #BloggerClubUK

    • ah yes we had slapping and biting probably from 18 mths until 2 or so. then it stopped. a reward sticker chart helped massively here. and now the hitting is back :/

  7. Mine is about to turn one and has been slapping me since he was strong enough to move his arms. It\’s a bit disheartening that it carries on past three! I hope it is just a little phase and you start seeing eye to eye soon! #BloggerClubUK

  8. Mine is about to turn one and has been slapping me since he was strong enough to move his arms. It\’s a bit disheartening that it carries on past three! I hope it is just a little phase and you start seeing eye to eye soon! #BloggerClubUK

  9. Mine is about to turn one and has been slapping me since he was strong enough to move his arms. It\’s a bit disheartening that it carries on past three! I hope it is just a little phase and you start seeing eye to eye soon! #BloggerClubUK

  10. Mine is about to turn one and has been slapping me since he was strong enough to move his arms. It\’s a bit disheartening that it carries on past three! I hope it is just a little phase and you start seeing eye to eye soon! #BloggerClubUK

  11. Mine is about to turn one and has been slapping me since he was strong enough to move his arms. It\’s a bit disheartening that it carries on past three! I hope it is just a little phase and you start seeing eye to eye soon! #BloggerClubUK

  12. Oh man we are nearly at 3! Bless must be so hard if he has done a U turn. Fingers crossed just a phase. I have started walking away if we daughter constantly refuses to do things and definitely following through with threats after a warning. Often causes tears but works in the end. Good luck!! Thanks for sharing with #bestandworst

  13. I hope that by the time I had read this it has blown over for you? It sounds crazy. It\’s funny how quickly they can change….almost overnight. But I\’m sure it\’s a phase and hopefully it won\’t last for 11 months, and that he\’s just testing the boundaries which is so frustrating for you. Hoping to hear good news? Thanks for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

  14. Manners and patience were definitely a big deal for us at this point too (and beyond if truth be told – but actually he\’s 5 now and is such a poppet most of the time!) and I remember feeling exactly the same as you…. the \’terribles 2s\’ weren\’t too bad and then bang… the threenager phase was MUCH worse. It is just a phase I suppose (all be it quite a long one for us) so hopefully you can take some solace from that. Good luck! #ablogginggoodtime. x

  15. So it IS true, nooooooooo! Baby K had his second birthday last month and we\’ve been getting a little bit of attitude coming through AND what is it about this regression in potty training, he was doing fine then all of a sudden he starts weeing in his pants. I suppose all we can do is breathe through it, I look forward to your update saying it\’s all a phase – please say it\’s a phase! x #BloggerClubUK

  16. To be honest I would not have a clue we\’ve not got there yet! Not looking forward to it now. Someone needs to find Peter Pan and quick. #bestandworst

  17. Snap!!! My youngest turned 3 at the beginning of July and I swear she turned into an utter monster almost overnight!! She has daily tantrums and RAGES when something doesn\’t go her way. I think this age is utter frustration. I HOPE it passes! Good luck. I\’m sure we will look back on this and laugh. Or else cry!! #BloggerClubUk X

    • yep we have rages daily at the mo and it\’s doing my blinkin head in. if he doesn\’t get his way, that\’s it. im sure it WILL pass. deep breath and calm haha x

  18. This happened to us too! We never experienced the terrible twos but the day he turned three, he turned into a different child. We are approaching four now and whilst some things have calmed down, that patience thing is a real issue! That and the snot everywhere! I’ve heard age 4 is even worse! Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

    • yep patience is non existent here. and he has started hitting again which I find really upsetting. his speech is really good so there is no reason why he cant communicate his frustrations!

  19. Yikes, please don\’t scare me!! My 13 month year old is testing me at time at the moment! All we can do is say it\’s just a phase and hope for the best! Thanks for linking up to #abrandnewday

  20. Oh boy do I know this feeling. My son turned 3 in June as well (twinsies!) and I felt like he must have been swapped with a tiny demon while I slept.
    He\’s much better now, thank goodness, once we established the boundaries again. I swear it\’s like every couple of months he starts trying it again to see what he can get away with. We seem to be just starting another difficult period right now, and I don\’t care for it. But at least now I know it\’s temporary and at some point my nice kid will come back.

  21. Haha this made me laugh out loud fab blog. As a mother of 5 I can (not helpfully) inform you that it does not get better just easier to ignore haha. I hope you hold onto your sanity longer than I did 😉

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

CommentLuv badge

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.