Am I Sad to Feel Sad About Moving House?!

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Feeling sentimental about moving house…

We are doing it, we are finally moving house! We’ve lived in our current house for over 9 years. Where has the time gone? It has literally flown by. It feels like yesterday that we were enjoying our new space and sunny garden, as well as growing our family – namely with kittens!

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We’ve outgrown home!

But since little man has come along, the house seems super cramped. That has nothing to do with the amount of crap essentials that come with having a child. Essentials like these top must-have baby items and these baby purchase fails!

Our kitchen is small and when we were weaning, I couldn’t even get the high-chair in. And I longed for a tumble dryer! We started looking at houses back in 2013 and we finally found a house in March that fit all our requirements and felt like “home”.

Buying a house is never fun…

The buying process hasn’t been easy and at times it has been super stressful. It semi-ruined our holiday a few weeks ago. Solicitors combined with land registry errors furthered the stress but it all came good in the end. We “should” be moving on Monday 4 July 2016. I say should because the whole process has been so farcical that I am sure something else will go wrong. Update in 2017 – we moved!

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Moving Day!

Anyway in spite of moving to a larger house with more space and room for a tumble dryer, I still feel sad about leaving this house – our home! Hubby has zero sentimental feelings about anything and tells me to just look forward to the new house. I am excited, I am happy, but a part of me feels really sad about leaving (we are moving 300 meters down the road).

Happy memories

I feel sad because we had so many happy memories in this home. We got engaged, we got married, we discovered we were having a child, we raised our first child here, we raised our fur-babies. We’ve had parties, gatherings, hosted fun nights with friends and family. We’ve been through so much here, good and bad.

Anyway I am waffling and rambling. I am sure we will be happy in our new home and I can’t wait to decorate and plan each room 🙂 I want to recreate our lovely grey and mustard bedroom in the new house! Have you moved recently? How did you feel about moving?

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Our new kitchen – enough space for more cats!

A 2017 update!

So we did move on the day we’d set – July 4th. And we’ve been in our new home a year. We started creating new memories and we’ve done ALOT of home décor and DIY projects! Check out our new lounge. And our brand new ensuite bathroom. We even repurposed some old wardrobes and made a mud kitchen!

And look at our wonderful garden!

how to not be sad about moving house emotions depression griefWe already hosted our first party for b’s fourth birthday. It was awesome and we had space to hire a bouncy castle. Take a nose here!

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37 comments

  1. I know how you feel, our houses become homes and we create memories that are attached to our homes. When we sold our first family home where we had had our 3 babies it broke my heart, I still miss that little home and wonder could we have made it work if we stayed. We went on to build our dream home in the country. But after 4 years although we loved the home we decided to move closer to my children\’s school and friends. We had to downsize as we moved closer to the city. It\’s not as small as our first home or as large as our second, but I love that it is cosier and close to people we love. We have a dog, 3 cats and 5 bunnies plus 3 kids, but I discovered that space wasn\’t everything, actually I am happy here. We ahed been in for 8 weeks now and it was stressful, and moving is exhausting, but it was also exciting and fun to decorate. I know how emotional it can be, I think most men don\’t get that, it\’s different for us we feel more attached to the home we brought our babies home to. It\’s OK to feel that way, and to also feel excited about the new home. Put your own stamp on it, make it your haven, your home! I actually just posted a Vlog the other day and showed things that for me make my home a home. It is the people, the pets, and those little things that make you you that you need to add to your home. Enjoy it, embrace it. Good luck. You move the day before my birthday!

    • this is such a lovely comment. thank you 🙂 goodness, what a lot of animals too! I love my cats to bits but I feel we\’ve all been on top of each other lately. I think the move should give them some more space to relax too.
      have a happy happy birthday! x

  2. Totally understand! We moved house last October after an awkward 4 months of living with my parents after selling our old home which we also lived in for over 9 years. When A came along we knew we had to get out of there for so many reasons. Took a long time to sell, and then buy but we did it. We decorated our house for two solid weeks before moving in and boy was the shock hard! It took us a good few months to settle in our new house in the countryside but now 8 months on we absolutely love it and I hate to think of our old home. This is or forever home and where we will raise our family we couldn\’t be happier. It\’ll be tough making the transition to your new house because you have good feelings about the home you\’re leaving but it\’ll all be worth it in the end. This time next year you\’ll be looking back at this long and awkward process saying thank god its all done! We\’re here and we\’re happy! The very very very best of luck with your move. I know how unbelievably stressful it is. Just think of your first Christmas in your new home this year 😀

  3. Totally understand! We moved house last October after an awkward 4 months of living with my parents after selling our old home which we also lived in for over 9 years. When A came along we knew we had to get out of there for so many reasons. Took a long time to sell, and then buy but we did it. We decorated our house for two solid weeks before moving in and boy was the shock hard! It took us a good few months to settle in our new house in the countryside but now 8 months on we absolutely love it and I hate to think of our old home. This is or forever home and where we will raise our family we couldn\’t be happier. It\’ll be tough making the transition to your new house because you have good feelings about the home you\’re leaving but it\’ll all be worth it in the end. This time next year you\’ll be looking back at this long and awkward process saying thank god its all done! We\’re here and we\’re happy! The very very very best of luck with your move. I know how unbelievably stressful it is. Just think of your first Christmas in your new home this year 😀

  4. Totally understand! We moved house last October after an awkward 4 months of living with my parents after selling our old home which we also lived in for over 9 years. When A came along we knew we had to get out of there for so many reasons. Took a long time to sell, and then buy but we did it. We decorated our house for two solid weeks before moving in and boy was the shock hard! It took us a good few months to settle in our new house in the countryside but now 8 months on we absolutely love it and I hate to think of our old home. This is or forever home and where we will raise our family we couldn\’t be happier. It\’ll be tough making the transition to your new house because you have good feelings about the home you\’re leaving but it\’ll all be worth it in the end. This time next year you\’ll be looking back at this long and awkward process saying thank god its all done! We\’re here and we\’re happy! The very very very best of luck with your move. I know how unbelievably stressful it is. Just think of your first Christmas in your new home this year 😀

  5. Totally understand! We moved house last October after an awkward 4 months of living with my parents after selling our old home which we also lived in for over 9 years. When A came along we knew we had to get out of there for so many reasons. Took a long time to sell, and then buy but we did it. We decorated our house for two solid weeks before moving in and boy was the shock hard! It took us a good few months to settle in our new house in the countryside but now 8 months on we absolutely love it and I hate to think of our old home. This is or forever home and where we will raise our family we couldn\’t be happier. It\’ll be tough making the transition to your new house because you have good feelings about the home you\’re leaving but it\’ll all be worth it in the end. This time next year you\’ll be looking back at this long and awkward process saying thank god its all done! We\’re here and we\’re happy! The very very very best of luck with your move. I know how unbelievably stressful it is. Just think of your first Christmas in your new home this year 😀

  6. Totally understand! We moved house last October after an awkward 4 months of living with my parents after selling our old home which we also lived in for over 9 years. When A came along we knew we had to get out of there for so many reasons. Took a long time to sell, and then buy but we did it. We decorated our house for two solid weeks before moving in and boy was the shock hard! It took us a good few months to settle in our new house in the countryside but now 8 months on we absolutely love it and I hate to think of our old home. This is or forever home and where we will raise our family we couldn\’t be happier. It\’ll be tough making the transition to your new house because you have good feelings about the home you\’re leaving but it\’ll all be worth it in the end. This time next year you\’ll be looking back at this long and awkward process saying thank god its all done! We\’re here and we\’re happy! The very very very best of luck with your move. I know how unbelievably stressful it is. Just think of your first Christmas in your new home this year 😀

  7. Totally understand! We moved house last October after an awkward 4 months of living with my parents after selling our old home which we also lived in for over 9 years. When A came along we knew we had to get out of there for so many reasons. Took a long time to sell, and then buy but we did it. We decorated our house for two solid weeks before moving in and boy was the shock hard! It took us a good few months to settle in our new house in the countryside but now 8 months on we absolutely love it and I hate to think of our old home. This is or forever home and where we will raise our family we couldn\’t be happier. It\’ll be tough making the transition to your new house because you have good feelings about the home you\’re leaving but it\’ll all be worth it in the end. This time next year you\’ll be looking back at this long and awkward process saying thank god its all done! We\’re here and we\’re happy! The very very very best of luck with your move. I know how unbelievably stressful it is. Just think of your first Christmas in your new home this year 😀

  8. Totally understand! We moved house last October after an awkward 4 months of living with my parents after selling our old home which we also lived in for over 9 years. When A came along we knew we had to get out of there for so many reasons. Took a long time to sell, and then buy but we did it. We decorated our house for two solid weeks before moving in and boy was the shock hard! It took us a good few months to settle in our new house in the countryside but now 8 months on we absolutely love it and I hate to think of our old home. This is or forever home and where we will raise our family we couldn\’t be happier. It\’ll be tough making the transition to your new house because you have good feelings about the home you\’re leaving but it\’ll all be worth it in the end. This time next year you\’ll be looking back at this long and awkward process saying thank god its all done! We\’re here and we\’re happy! The very very very best of luck with your move. I know how unbelievably stressful it is. Just think of your first Christmas in your new home this year 😀

  9. I understand that you are sad moving I was the same when I sold my old car . Us ladies get very attached to things . I am sure you will love your new home and I can not wait to see it xx

  10. Ooh, I jumped on this post as I am in the process of buying a house and hoping to move soon. I thought I would feel sad about leaving my old flat, but I didn\’t, and felt nothing but relief when it was finally sold. I guess I\’m not as sentimental as I thought I was! Best of luck in your new house. #coolmumclub

  11. we moved at the beginning of the year, and like your husband I had zero sentimental feelings, but my husband did funnily… I loved our old house but it is just a house, home will always be where you and your family are, and the wonderful memories you made will always be with you….oh and our buying/selling process was a nightmare too, I don\’t know why they have to make it so bloody difficult lol – enjoy your new house! You\’ll make so many more memories and you\’ll have a blast making it home! wishing you the best of luck! (and a not too stressful moving day!) 🙂 #coolmumclub

    • my friend says that too – its just a house. she says we \”borrow\” houses 🙂 I cant wait to decorate and get our stuff organised! thanks for reading!

  12. I can totally relate! We moved last September and had been in our house for 8 years so I was heart broken at the thought of moving from our little house and leaving my garden which I had spent so much time nurturing. But I knew we needed to and that in time the new house would feel even more like home to me.

    It really helped that our removal firm pre-loaded 90% of our belongings the day before move day (they packed for us as it just wasn\’t viable for me to do it with a 8mo) and by that last evening, it actually didn\’t feel like our house any more. It really is the people and the belongings that make a house. The garden was still a strain though as I had to leave most mature plants behind.

    Our new house felt like home a week later though. When you have a little person who follows a routine and spreads their stuff around, you just have to get on with normal life. After the first 2 days of mammoth unpacking, we were back to doing things normally apart from nap times and that made it feel like home. Almost 10 months on and the old house is just a happy memory. My daughter knows every inch of our new house and it\’s her happy place so that in turn makes me happy. I\’ve even managed to get in the garden to start getting it on the path to where I want it to be!

    Enjoy your last few days and just know that your family will make your new house amazing 🙂 Good luck!

    • thanks for such a lovely reply Angela 🙂 I\’m sad to see our garden go too – we have some lovely trees that we cant take. the new garden is lovely though so im sure we will feel at home soon! I\’m off for a few days next week so hope to get lots of unpacking and sorting done 🙂

  13. You can get so attached to a house. When I moved out of my parents house I cried, it has been my home for 13years. I still call it home now #compellingly

  14. Ah, I\’m a massive romantic so I\’m totally with you! I love the progress of moving – life moves forwards after all, but I am so sentimental about the memories attached to things, music, people, yes and houses!
    Good luck – lets hope you\’ve had all your bad luck now x
    Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub

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